I need some help.

I want to keep updating this regularly. However questions seem to have dried up. So… send me some questions.

Dieting Will Power

So much for keeping a posting schedule. I’d love to blame this delay on being busy with work or because I’m trying to get ready for school starting but really it’s just a matter of not having anyone writing in. So please… send me questions so I can answer them.

I did get a question this week but it wasn’t from the Ask Griffin readers. It was from a listener of the Podcast I record weekly where I co-host along sie Wes Toma. I answered it on the air but I’m posting he question here so you can decide whether or not you want to hear the answer.

Recipes for Revenge 2 of 2

Relationships are tough enough while they’re going on. Then there’s the aftermath. There’s a sense of betrayal. Distrust. Resentment. Hurt. Longing. Sexual tension. Then you can stack onto this the sense of internal disruptions. What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I keep anyone? Is this my fault? Am I not good looking enough? Blah blah blah. Don’t even get me started on the “I just want to be friends” crud.

Today’s letter comes from Johnny in TN who is have a little trouble with his girlfriend. Well… actually he’s having trouble coping with the way his girlfriend ended things. He wants a little insight into getting back at her. So… let’s see what I see.

Recipes for Revenge 1 of 2

So revenge is always a tricky thing. It’s a necessary action from time to time. However to do it well you must make it seem like you’ve done nothing at all. Otherwise you’ve got a whole slew of people judging you and you inspire a reason for the person to take revenge of their own. Then you may as well change your name to McCoy or Hatfield.

So we have a pair of letters seeking revenge help. I personally support revenge. I think it’s one of the healthiest forms of anger management. It’s not driven by rage. It’s driven by fury. Rage is instant, unthinking, emotional. It’s problematic. Fury is calm, calculated and planned. Just as vicious. But without the mess and collateral damage. It’s healthier when done right. It’s looks like karma when done perfectly.

What not to do on a first date.

I started this blog with this intention of updating regularly on Mondays and Fridays. Though this weekend I got a bit preoccupied writing a series of articles titled “What not to do on a first date.”

Friends don’t let friends stay friends.

People suck. You know this. I know this. Even if you’re one of those annoyingly nice and optimistic bubblegum and rainbows people you know this. You’re just not the type of person to say it that way. If you’re lucky enough to find someone who is willing to accept you for who you are without hassling you for your flaws… keep em. But you may be asking yourself “Hmmm… if that’s the quality I should aim to keep in a friend… what quality should I set as the low end to know who to get rid of?” To which I say… nothing cause you’re asking yourself. If you want an answer from me you should write in with it. Speaking of people writing in with questions… Lindsay from North Caroline sent in tis little ditty.

Life on the lam…

Life on the lam ain’t as easy as you’d think. I know “the lam” implies that the cops are after you. For the purposes of this conversation let’s widen the scope a bit to include any situation where you’re trying to survive off grid or outside the standard concepts.

It’s not easy to adjust to it and that’s mainly because people don’t comprehend the reality of it. People think that there are two levels of life. Option A: People who have homes or apartments and are stable secure members of society. Option B: People who pan handle at the subway, drink Listerine and sleep in recessed doorways.

Hate to break it to you but there are many other ways to survive. And today we have a letter from a woman who is setting me up to talk about just that fact.

Let’s Open Up With Something Original…

Let’s open up with something original… like relationship problems.

Now… I’m all for relationship problems. They keep things interesting. I stopped expecting relationships to work a long long time again. Statistically it’s just very unlikely that you’re ever going to get it right. So I just stick to my guns enjoy the good while it’s happening and end things when they get more complicated than their worth.

I do realise I’m the anomaly. I know most people need someone to need them and they’re all willing to compromise their personalities, hopes and dreams to create the illusion of synergy. That being said… here’s our question for today.

Introduction

Hi there.

You don’t know me but I’m fixing to change that. My name is Griffin. If I was forced to classify myself I’d say I’m an illustrator who is training to be a psychologist. That’s the answer people expect. However I’ve heard friends tell other people “Griffin’s a hard guy to know.” or “You’d need to cling to a big rock to sink to the bottom of him.” So it’s probably not a good idea to pretend that listing my professional aspects are the best way to identify me.

I’ve spent my whole life seeing around corners when it comes to people and situations. I’m the guy who’s always saying “I told you so.” Not in that snotty obnoxious way though. I don’t judge people for wanting to experience and learn things on their own. However when I warn someone and I turn out to be right… I don’t feel bad reminding them they were warned before I help.